Strategies for dealing with excessive anger, anger typically is fast and impulsive.
We describe an angry person as being quick tempered or a hothead.
We feel a flash of anger and are tempted to lash out.
We need ways to slow down, cooled things off and find space to choose how we react.
Each of the strategies for diffusing anger is a way to keep you in the driver's seat rather than being
controlled by emotion.
The techniques presented here will fall into the familiar categories of think native act behavioral
and the mindfulness.
Think Cognitive knew your triggers.
Most of us have people or situations that consistently test our patience.
Come in.
Examples include driving, being pressed for time or certain topics of disagreement with a loved one.
Many of the strategies for dealing with anger require knowing in advance what's likely to irritate us.
Take some time to write down your common triggers.
Remember the costs of excessive anger when you are angry.
It's easy to ignore the consequences of indulging in it.
What has angered Kostia that motivates you to work on managing it?
How has it affected your peace of mind, your closest relationship, your professional life?
Examine your thoughts.
Use the techniques to identify and examine your anger related thoughts.
Look for thinking errors that may be fueling your anger.
Are there alternative beliefs or explanations that would make more sense and be less irritating?
The basement lights were on again.
Breaks were allowed.
The kids never remember to turn off the lights, he thought, with irritation.
Then he realized it was only the second time.
This week Rick still wanted his kids to be more consistent, but he felt less annoyed after checking
his thinking.
It can be unrealistic to change our thinking in the heat of the moment, as anger may overpower our
reason, as those times simply note the thoughts that are going through your head and return to to evaluate
them when you are feeling calm.